Despite the fact that love works miracles, something even it doesn’t help. We cannot change the character traits that determine the identity of our beloved. Most likely, attempts will result in the relationship being destroyed. But even if we assume that we will eradicate the features of their nature that we hate, we should be prepared for the fact that we will face another person. Not the one we fell in love with. That I why we have prepared a list of character traits of the partner you will have to put up with or compromise because changing them is nearly impossible.
Communication with Family
Sometimes we marry not only hot single ladies, but their entire family. The feelings of your beloved towards the next of kin can be very deep and will not change, no matter how much we want them to communicate less and spend more time on our union.
If you were unable to enter this close-knit family, then any attempts to drag a partner to your side and convince them to spend less time with loved ones are doomed. And vice versa: it is important to give your partner the freedom not to attend family meetings as often as you do. The sense of family is important, but still not at the expense of relationships with a loved one.
Introvert / Extrovert
Opposites really attract, but only up to a point. One day, you will want your loving silence and privacy partner to support your desire to spend several evenings in a row outside the home. You cannot change a person’s temperament. If despite the psychological polarity, you decide to be together, you have to give each other the freedom to be yourself. You will have to meet each other halfway in such issues.
Our interests, which are in no way connected with professional implementation, help maintain internal balance. We lose the feeling of fullness and control over our own lives if we lose what we do not for the sake of money, but only for our own pleasure. If, at the beginning of the relationship, it seems to you that your beloved devotes too much time to skiing, ballroom dancing, or reading, you should not assume that this will change when you start living together.
If the person with whom you intend to build a relationship explodes because of insignificant questions that could easily be resolved peacefully, do not hope that love can change that. This is a problem that must be taken seriously from the very beginning. Aggression and restraint are qualities that will only get worse over the years. Especially passive aggression which is just a form of manipulation. The person makes you go crazy and pretend they did not do anything because there was no physical violence or obvious offends.
Often the problem of divergence of religious views is revealed only after the birth of children. Even if before the partner did not talk about their beliefs, with the advent of the children, they may want them to be brought up in a spiritual tradition close to their family. If the second partner adheres to other religious views, turns out to be an atheist or an agnostic, most likely this will be a ground for a serious discussion.
Need for Loneliness
You strive to spend every free minute together, while a loved one needs their own space. A partner’s need for loneliness can be interpreted as rejecting you and responding painfully. Meanwhile, the time spent separately allows us to maintain the novelty of feelings, the individuality of each, which ultimately only strengthens the union.
When people are constantly together, one of them may have the feeling that relationships are the only thing they are busy with. This causes internal resistance in a partner who needs more time in order to reflect on a new experience, to realize changing desires and needs.
The Need for Planning
You need to carefully plan each step, while the partner prefers spontaneous decisions. At first, this difference can benefit relations: one side helps the other to live in the present and feel the beauty of the moment, while the other gives confidence in the future and comfort from the fact that a lot has been well prepared.
It seems that these are not the opposites in the views that can destroy the relationship. However, it all depends on the severity of these discrepancies. If you spend all the energy on convincing each other how to spend the weekend and whether it is necessary to carefully plan the family budget, this will inevitably lead to conflicts. This difference is connected with the peculiarities of the psyche, and you will never change a person’s way of gaining psychological safety and comfort.